The greater part of most people’s thinking is involuntary, automatic and repetitive. It fulfills no purpose. Strictly speaking, you don’t think: Thinking happens to you. “I think” is just as false a statement as “I digest” or “I circulate my blood”.
The voice in the head has a life of its own. Most people are possessed by thought, by the mind. For thousands of years, humanity has been increasingly mind-possessed. Through complete identification with the mind, a false sense of self – the ego – came into existence. The degree of identification with the mind differs from person to person. Some people enjoy periods of freedom from it, however brief, and others are constantly trapped in the egoic state. Most of their attention is absorbed by thinking, and so they don’t really see you, and they are not really listening to you.
What is the relation between the ego and the pain-body?
It is part of the ego. It is the emotional part of the ego.
The Birth Of Emotion
There are two dimensions to the ego: thought and emotion.
This doesn’t mean that all thoughts or emotions are of the ego. They turn into ego only when you identify with them and they take you over completely.
Emotion is the body’s reaction to your mind. It is the body’s response to a thought.
Although the body is very intelligent, it cannot tell the difference between an actual situation and a thought. It reacts to every thought as if it were a reality. It doesn’t know it is just a thought.
Emotions and the Ego
So the ego is not only the unobserved mind but also the unobserved emotions that are the body’s reaction to what the voice in the head is saying.
Almost every human body is under a great deal of strain and stress, not because it is threatened by some external factor but from within the mind.
What is a negative emotion? An emotion that is toxic to the body and interferes with its balance and harmonious functioning. Fear, anxiety, anger, bearing a grudge, sadness, hatred or intense dislike, jealousy, envy…and so so. There is a generic term for all negative emotions: unhappiness. Do positive emotions then have the opposite effect on the physical body? Yes they do, but we have to differentiate between positive emotions that are ego-generated and deeper emotions that emanate from your natural state of connectedness with Being. Positive emotions generated by the ego already contain within themselves their opposite into which they can quickly turn.
Here are some examples:
What the ego calls love is possessiveness and addictive clinging that can turn into hate within seconds.
Anticipation of an upcoming event, which is the ego’s overvaluation of future, easily turns into its opposite when the event is over or doesn’t fulfill the ego’s expectations.
Ego-generated emotions are derived from the mind’s identification with external factors which are, of course, all unstable and liable to change at any moment. The deeper emotions are not really emotions at all but states of Being.
Carrying the past
We can stop adding to the pain-body that we already have.We can learn to refrain from mentally dwelling on the past, regardless of whether something happened yesterday or thirty years ago. We can learn not to keep situations or events alive in our minds, but to return our attention continuously to the pristine, timeless present moment rather than be caught up in mental movie-making.
Nothing ever happened in the past that can prevent you from being present now; and if the past cannot prevent you from being present now, what power does it have?
How the pain-body renews itself
Like all life-forms, it periodically needs to feed – to take in new energy – and the food it requires to replenish itself consists of energy that is compatible with its own, energy that vibrates at a similar frequency. Any emotionally painful experience can be used as food by the pain body. It thrives on negative thinking, drama in relationships and is an addiction to unhappiness.
In most people the pain-body has an dormant and an active stage. It can lie in hibernation for weeks and even years before it gets triggered by some event.
How the pain-body feeds on your thoughts
The vibrational frequency of the pain-body resonates with that of negative thoughts, which is why only those thoughts can feed the pain-body. Emotion from the pain-body quickly gains control of your thinking, and once your mind has been taken over by the pain-body, your thinking becomes negative. It is not so much that you cannot stop your train of negative thoughts, but that you don’t want to. This is because the pain-body at that time is living through you, pretending to be you. To the pain-body, pain is pleasure.
How the pain-body feeds on drama
If there are other people around, the pain-body will attempt to provoke them so it can feed on the ensuing drama. The other person’s pain-body wants to awaken yours so that both pain-bodies can mutually energize each other.
In intimate relationships, pain-bodies are often clever enough to lie low until you start living together. It’s easy to sustain the roles when you are not living together.
Thanksgiving and Christmas are the best times for the pain-bodies with all the family gatherings.
How to deal with very heavy pain-bodies
Its important not to buy into the drama. You have to be in a different state of consciousness. Be there as a very compassionate presence. Recognize the pain body without the need to react to the drama. Allow the person to be in the pain body. Do not feed the other pain-body. Do not underestimate it, they are very clever. They can make you react and be unconscious again by pressing your buttons. It requires great alertness not to be drawn in.
Don’t resist the void when something is gone. Something else will shine through. Accept your emotions is the first important step. Don’t hold on the way it was.
How not to be obsessed by certain thoughts
Thoughts pretend to be necessary. They have the ability to win your attention. They fulfill no useful purpose. Don’t try to get rid of these thoughts..that wouldn’t work. What you resist persists. But see that they are futile. They are just part of the structure of the conditioned egoic mind. That’s why a change of your situation(=content) won’t solve the problem. You would still be obsessed by something else. For example if you have money you are obsessed by loosing it and if you don’t have money you are obsessed by how to make money. See the futility in the moment these thoughts happen. This has to be trained.