The content of the ego varies from person to person, but in every ego the same structure operates. Egos only differ on the surface. They live on identification and seperation. Every ego is continuously struggling for survival, trying to protect and enlarge itself.

The complete egoic functioning is part of the unconsciousness.

Complaining and Resentment
Complaining is one of the egos favorite strategies for strengthening itself. When you are in the grip of such an ego, complaining, especially about other people, is habitual and, of course, unconscious, which means you don´t know what you are doing. Complaining serves non purpose if it brings no change to the situation! But stating the facts without negativity is ok.
Nonreaction to the ego in others is one of the most effective ways not only of going beyond ego in yourself but also of dissolving the collective human ego. But you can only be in a state of nonreaction if you can recognize someone’s behavior as coming from the ego, as being an expression of the collective human dysfunction. When you realize it’s not personal, there is no longer a compulsion to react as if it were. Your greatest protection is being conscious.
What you can do to persons, you can also do to a situation: make it into an enemy. This should not be happening; I don’t want to be here; I don’t want to be doing this; I’m being treated unfairly. And the ego’s greatest enemy of all is, of course, the present moment, which is to say, life itself.

Hurt Feelings and the Ego
The Ego feels hurt. Simply accept what you are feeling. It’s only a mental image that got hurt.

Reactivity and Grievances
Through reacting against this or that they assert and strengthen the feeling of self. A grievance will also contaminate other areas of your life. Don’t try to let go of the grievance. Trying to let go, to forgive, does not work. Forgiveness happens naturally when you see that it has no purpose other than to strengthen a false sense of self, to keep the go in place. The seeing is freeing.
The past has no power to stop you from being present now. Only your grievance about the past can do that. And what is a grievance? The baggage of old thought and emotion.

In Defense of an Illusion
There is nothing that strengthens the ego more than being right. Being right is identification with a mental position. But facts undoubtedly exist.You can state that light travels faster than sound. There is no ego involved in this. But at soon as you say “Believe me, I know” or “Why do you never believe me” the ego has contaminated the statement.
Ego takes everything personally. Emotion arises, defensiveness, perhaps even aggression. Are you defending the truth? No, the truth in any case, needs no defense. You are defending yourself, or rather the illusion of yourself, the mind-made substitute.

Every ego is a master of selective perception and distorted interpretation. Only through awareness – not through thinking – can you differentiate between fact and opinion. Only through awareness can you see the totality of the situation or person instead of adopting one limited perspective.

Truth: Relative or Absolute?
Beyond the realm of simple and verifiable facts, the certainity that “I am right and you are wrong” is a dangerous thing in personal relationships as well as in interactions between nations, tribes and religions.
The history of Christianity is, of course, a prime example of how the belief that you are in sole possession of the truth, that is to say, right, can corrupt your actions and behavior to the point of insanity.

The Ego is not personal
What is is that lies at the root of this insanity? Complete identification with thought and emotion, that is to say, ego. Anything that you resent and strongly react to in another is also in you. But it is no more than a form of ego, and as such, it is completely impersonal. It has nothing to do with who that person is.

War is a mind-set
Unconsciousness, dysfunctional egoic behavior, can never be defeated by attacking it. Whatever you fight, you strengthen, and what you resist, persists. War is a mind-set, and all action that comes out of such a mind-set will either strengthen the enemy, the perceived evil, or, if the war is won, will create a new enemy, a new evil equal to and often worse than the one that was defeated. There is a deep interrelatedness between your state of consciousness and external reality.
Nobody is wrong. It is the ego in someone, that’s all. Compassion arises when you recognize that all are suffering from the same sickness of the mind, some more acutely than others. You do not fuel the drama anymore that is part of all egoic relationships. What is its fuel? Reactivity. The ego thrives on it.

There is an addiction to unhappiness. The ego loves this energy and doesn’t want to get out. It doesn’t want you to get out. The Now is the hidden exit.

Beyond Ego: Your true identity
All that is required to become free of the ego is to be aware of it, since awareness and ego are incompatible. Awareness is the power that is concealed within the present moment. This is why we may also call it Presence. The ultimate purpose of human existence, which is to say, your purpose, is to bring that power into this world. And this is also why becoming free of the ego cannot be made into a goal to be attained at some point in the future. Only Presence can free you of the ego, and you can only be present Now, not yesterday or tomorrow. The only thing that ultimately matters ist this: Can I sense my essential Beingness, the I Am, in the background of my life at all times?

Spiritual realization is to see clearly that what I perceive, experience, think, or feel is ultimately not who I am, that I cannot find myself in all those things that continuously pass away. You are the space for all those things. You are the awareness in which all those things appear.

All Structures are unstable
The underlying emotion that governs all the activity of the ego is fear. The fear of being nobody, the fear of nonexistence, the fear of death. All its actitivities are ultimately designed to eliminate this fear, but the most the ego can ever do is to cover it up temporarily with an intimate relationship, a new possession, or winning at this or that. Illusion will never satisfy you. Only the truth of who you are, if realized, will set you free. Why fear ? Because the ego arises by identification with form, and deep down it knows that no forms are permanent. Once you realize and accept that all structures (forms) are unstable, even the seemingly solid material ones, peace arises within you.

A genuine relationship is one that is not dominated by the ego with its image-making and self-seeking. In a genuine relationship, there is an outward flow of open, alert attention toward the other person in which there is no wanting whatsoever.

What does it mean to worry? It has no purpose. Worry pretends to be necessary. You have to see that it serves no useful purpose. Simply be a conscious space of presence for another person.